Church-based sex crimes … also in Iceland

Thanks to SNAP, the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests,  for this:

“No institution can police itself, especially not an ancient, rigid, secretive, all-male monarchy like the Catholic Church, which has a horrific track record of committing and concealing heinous child sex crimes.
It is crucial that victims, witnesses and whistleblowers speak up. However, it is clear that they should come forward to secular authorities, not church authorities.
Apologies from bishops are meaningless. Actions, not words, protect children.
We call on Iceland’s bishop to immediately and publicly oust and identify all proven, admitted and credibly accused child molesting clerics. He should also post on his website the names and whereabouts of all such predators who ever lived or worked in Iceland as well.

(SNAP, the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests, is the world’s oldest and largest support group for clergy abuse victims. We’ve been around for 23 years and have more than 10,000 members. Despite the word “priest” in our title, we have members who were molested by religious figures of all denominations, including nuns, rabbis, bishops, and Protestant ministers. Our website is SNAPnetwork.org)”

 Here is a link to an article in “The Reykjavik Grapevine”  

And a quote:

Vísir now reports that Catholic Bishop of Iceland Pétur Bürcher has publicly apologised to the victims of sexual abuse at the hands of Catholic priests or other staff, and asks for their forgiveness. In so doing, he said, he is following the example of Pope Benedict XVI, who issued a similar statement not too long ago.”

I also linked to this on Facebook, and this is what I wrote there: “When will they realize that apologies are not enough? As a Catholic child, I learned that forgiveness via confession only “worked” if you truly realized what you had done wrong and promised never to do it again. But maybe that only applies to children, and not to clergy?”

ENLIGHTENMENT AND DISSOCIATION

 Edited on June 26th

I’ve found another blog (well, a home page) that seems to fit into and fill out my thinking and my experiences – with one exception: I’m a bit wary of words like “truth” and “enlightenment”. I prefer “information”, and the Norwegian word “bakkekontakt” … “ground contact” … as in having both feet on the ground. 

Essays for the Truth Seeker 

Here’s an article that goes well with
“Putting the light from enlightenment in its place”


called

 Dissociation Mimics Enlightenment

I’m quoting from the author’s presentation here, and want to add that I agree completely with what he writes about mild childhood trauma, and about our culture as being highly traumatized. Kudos to an ex-psychotherapist with the balls to write (and yes, I’m shouting):    “I view the norm in our culture as being highly traumatized, and I view the average, and even above-average, childhood as being extremely traumatic – and the average parent as lacking both awareness of this and deep empathy for the child.”
 
From my viewpoint as a parent and grandparent, let me add that in thinking this, I do not think that parents don’t love their children. As I see it, most parents do the best they can. (And when I said this to two young fathers whom I consider to have good parenting skills, they reacted simultaneously  with “Oh, no, we certainly don’t do the best we can!” That self-awareness might be one reason why I see them as skilful parents)
     I certainly don’t think that many parents look at a new-born baby and say to themselves: “I’m going to do all I can to stunt this child’s growth and make life difficult and miserable for this little baby.” And so many of us have had miserable lives because of harmful parenting by people who themselves have been subjected to harmful parenting.
     What can we, as parents, do? I decided that this cycle of harm stops with me. I gave the people who harmed me responsibility for what they did, and in doing so, was able to see the many mistakes I myself have made as a parent. When my children have confronted me with things I have done, and I have been able to own them, take responsibility for them, and not try to hide behind excuses and good intentions.

Sorry, I got sidetracked … here is the complete presentation of the author of the enlightenment article: 
My name is Daniel Mackler and I am filmmaker and musician in New York City. I also worked for ten years as a psychotherapist in New York, though I ended my therapy practice on March 1st, 2010. My writings focus on the causes, consequences, and radical significance of childhood trauma. I see childhood trauma as ranging from the extreme, which is common, to the mild, which is so much MORE common that few even notice it at all, much less call them by its proper name. I view the norm in our culture as being highly traumatized, and I view the average, and even above-average, childhood as being extremely traumatic – and the average parent as lacking both awareness of this and deep empathy for the child.

I see our world growing more pathological, confused, polluted, overpopulated, and disturbed by the day – and I feel that to stand by and say nothing while we destroy our planet is irresponsible and even criminal. Yet I write with great hope – both for individual healing and for the collective healing of our world. I seek to offer a new perspective – on relationships, on enlightenment, on celibacy, on the pathology of the family system, and on the future of our species.

"Putting the light from enlightenment in its place"

Sometimes I come across something someone else has written that I’ve been planning to write … and it’s always a great pleasure when it’s much better than anything I could have written. 

Because then I don’t have to. 

Here’s a blog that has shortened my “to write” list (drum roll, please):   

Daily Voice Dialogue

What do you think of these two articles? 

“Putting the light from enlightenment in its place” 

 and


“Learning from Captain Jack Sparrow”


Conference on "Fostering Real Alternatives to Psychiatry"

Many thanks for this link to “NFPH – Norsk Forening for Psykisk Helsearbeid” in Norway.
Takk til   Norsk Forening for Psykisk Helsearbeid for denne lenken. 
(Det står litt på norsk på slutten) 
INTAR – International Network Toward Alternatives and Recovery – is announcing a conference in Berlin Berlin in Sept 2011: 


  
This network is new to me, and it has already won my heart by using the term “psychiatric violence”. 

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Norsk: INTAR “internasjonalt nettverk for alternativer og gjenfinning”* skal holde en konferanse i Berlin i september, 2011, med temaet “Leting etter en rosenhage – om å fremme reelle alternativer til psykiatri”.

Dette er mitt første møte med nettverket, og det har allerede vunnet mitt hjerte ved å bruke betegnelsen “psykiatrisk vold”.    






* En av betydningene til det engelske ordet “recovery”  er “gjenervervelse, gjenfinning”, og i denne sammenhengen syns jeg det passer mye bedre enn “helbredelse”, som er en annen betydning. Fra min synsvinkel er det snakk om å finne tilbake til den vi vi var født til å være. 
 

"Gays getting married creates a hostile environment"

According to a letter written on Monday by retired chaplains and religious agencies to the services chiefs of chaplains, gays getting married in base chapels “creates an environment that is increasingly hostile to many chaplains – and the service members they serve – whose faith groups and personal consciences recognize homosexual behavior as immoral and unsafe and do not permit same-sex unions.”

Read the whole article here:

“FOR GOD AND COUNTRY” by Officer X

Schrödinger’s Rapist


Forklaring på norsk til slutt.

The Slutwalks reminded me of an article I read a while ago in Kate Harding’s blog, Shapely Prose,
written by guest blogger Phaedra Starling ” …the pen name of a romance novelist and licensed private investigator living in small New York City apartment with two large dogs. She practices Brazilian jiu-jitsu and makes world-class apricot muffins.”

 Here’s the link to: Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced

 The article is interesting, and the comments are fascinating … especially those from men who insist on their right to approach women they don’t know, who signal that they don’t want to be approached, because ‘otherwise they won’t know how nice I am’. And comments from women who insist that Starling is exaggerating because ‘I don’t feel threatened’. (or maybe that was mostly in another forum …)

Jeg skal  be om tillatelse til å oversette “Schrödingers voldtekstmann” til norsk etter hvert. Den er en veiledning til menn, og handler om hvordan man skal og ikke skal ta kontakt med kvinner man ikke kjenner. Poenget med tittelen er at når en fremmed mann tar kontakt med oss, har vi bare atferden hans å gå etter. Og hvis han viser at han ikke respekterer våre grenser eller vårt “nei” i den situasjonen, har vi ingen grunn til å tro at han vil respektere dem i andre situasjoner.