Written in December 2012,
I have to write this before I can move on.
is scary to write about.
…? The reason is not important.
I do not want to. That is important.
doing it anyway. That is important.
I will not fight. That is important.
not fight in The Help Services, will not fight in the rest of my life.
is very important.
I will not discuss who is right or wrong.
That is not an important discussion.
I do not want to be in a win/lose
Situations like that are very
for someone who does not want to win,
and I do not.
I will not talk about right of definition.
That is not important.
It does not fill a need in me.
What is important?
Needs are important.
And I have needs.
I have …
A need to be outside the definition rights box.
A need to be somewhere else.
A place where everyone has the
right to own their their stories
and no one has the right to invade the
story of another.
I have a need to notice when others
invade my story.
A need for solid ground under my feet.
A place to stand.
Give me a fixed point, and I will move the
I do not want to move the world. That is
What is important? To move myself.
Move into the shadows, into the white
patches on the map.
Notice when I do not stand on
A need to straighten my back, lift my head
and take my share of space in
Not more space than others, not less
space than others.
As much space as others have the right to take.
I have a need to notice when others take
and make it impossible for me to straighten my
back and lift my head.
I have a need to own.
Own what I think, own my opinions, own
what I know,
own what my senses tell me, own my emotions, own
what I do.
A need to notice. Notice when it is
impossible to own
what I know, what my senses tell me, my
emotions, my actions.
Sometimes, certainly not always, I have a need to speak out:
«There is not room for all of me here.»
«My story is being invaded.»
Often it is enough to notice,
Mark it on my life map,
so that the map matches the terrain.
And maybe, most of all, I have a need to notice when others
make it a problem that I
take my share of space, straighten my back,
lift my head,
and tell my story. Because:
Without that, I cannot live.
And I have a need to live.
A need to know that we all have a need